Did you miss me? Well, I miss you all.
The past nine months have been hard.
Well, hard is a big understatement, but it’s the best I have honestly.
I should start this by thanking my amazing family of readers, my tribe of epic humans I’m blessed to have in my life that make up my reader group on Facebook and my best friend, Felicia Lynn. Because of the nature of what I’m sharing with you all publicly today, I have kept 90% of this locked very tight with them. My children follow my social media, for one, but also the ‘big picture’ of my ‘ugly’ is a very hard pill to swallow, let alone share. There are many details that I will never share, but I truly believe that my story, the nightmare I was living, can be someone else’s salvation.
My tribe, that phenomenally magical group of angels, gave me my safe space. They saw my raw. They saw my pain. They saw my real. But what they gave me in return was and is priceless. The strength to believe I could withstand. The power to be calm and gracious, when I felt neither. Their support from so many different directions, I felt their touch as if it had been physical. They made me be able to come to where I am, by standing at my side, at my back, and filling in the holes that had been left inside my soul.
It’s hard for me to excuse such a long break from publishing without being as honest as I can. It’s also hard for me to sit on something so raw and personal, knowing that my journey could very well be what someone needs to read.
So, just like with Perfectly Imperfect, I’ll be breaking a piece of my soul off and bleeding it onto the pages. In addition to the promised (and late) releases for 2019 – this year, I’ll be writing MY story. Sure, there will be parts that are fluffed up in order for me to get my fictional happiness, but there won’t be any holding back on my ‘ugly’ in those pages. Don’t worry, Hope Town 5 and Heart of Vegas 2 (Blind Hearts) is still on the as soon as possible train, but my heart needs this other story — mine, to be shared. It won’t be everyone’s need, I’m sure, just like Perfectly Imperfect wasn’t. It will still be 100% a Harper Sloan book, but for the first time in my career, I’ll be adding ‘based on’ to the cover.
Half of 2018 was my nightmare. The first part of 2019 was my nightmare. But we all wake up sometime, right?
Well, I’m awake now … so let me share ‘my’ story with you … a prequel of sorts of the book to come.
I never, not in a million years, did I think I would be one of ‘those women’.
You know them and if you say you don’t, you’re either lying or that ‘woman’ didn’t feel safe enough to share her ‘ugly’. You should know them even without them sharing though. They’re the women who smile, but it always wobbles slightly and their eyes no longer crinkle with the gold star laugh lines they earned, but haven’t seen in a while.
I never thought I would be the blind one either. Though now I know I wasn’t really blind, I was just too busy being too busy.
Too busy with kids schedules.
Too busy with work deadlines and responsibilities.
Too busy with house work, dinner, laundry, cleaning, etc.
Too busy ensuring her family never struggles again — that they’re never in the spot they were six years ago when they had pennies.
Too busy living the life I assumed we were crafting together.
Though now I know I wasn’t ‘too busy’, I was leading by example, showing my daughters what hard work and sometimes frazzled nerves can achieve.
I never thought I would be one of the women the neighbors laugh at.
The one who they trash at their late night drinking get togethers—unknowingly attended by the man I trusted — who snuck out like a teenager to attend while his family slept.
The woman they drug through the nasty thickened mud, created by the filthy lies the man she trusted darkened the waters with.
The one they smiled at to her face, but sharpened their blades behind her back.
The one they have no idea they’ve been fed a sack of manure instead of the truth.
Though, I know now that anyone that could so easily kick a woman to bring her down, then to keep her down, don’t really need to be a concern of mine.
I never thought I would look at the man I vowed to love for the rest of my life and not recognize the person that had shared my side for seventeen years.
I never thought I would look at my reflection in my daughters’ eyes and wonder if they see strength or weakness for trying to work through so much deceit, lies and betrayal.
Wonder if they’re proud or shamed that their mother put her foot down and demanded to be enough when it became clear she was fighting for someone not willing to fight for them.
If they’ll believe in love, their own worth, their power to survive and fight for what’s right or those too innocent to fight for themselves.
I never thought, but there will never be a day I don’t make sure they are able to trust and believe in pure happiness when it enters their lives.
But even with all those mountains standing in the way, it’s okay. While I never thought I would be ‘that woman’, I also never thought there was a warrior hiding inside me. Ready and waiting. Preparing to always stand tall, share the wisdom of years past, and giving ‘that woman’ enough fight to stand — always.
I had no clue ‘that man’ had been oppressing ‘that woman’s’ ability to soar. My wings were clipped over a decade plus of verbal whips cast to leave the thickest invisible scars deep in a soul, the confidence ‘that woman’ once had, hiding behind the horrendous words two deceitful people shared while they snuck around living a secret life from their own spouses.
Those words gave me power though. Power to feed that warrior. Power to claw and fight and push my way toward a better life.
‘That man’ may have whispered his lies to his ‘other woman’, but ‘THIS woman’ knows the truth.
I am not UGLY.
I am not an IT.
I am not REPULSIVE.
I am not LAZY.
I am not a BAD MOTHER.
I am not a FAT CUNT.
I am not the CHEATER.
I am not UNLOVING.
I am not UNLOVABLE.
I am not DECEITFUL.
I am not WHAT YOU CLAIMED I WAS WITH YOUR LIES.
I am WORTHY.
I am STRONG.
I am BEAUTIFULLY FLAWED.
I am SUCCESSFUL.
I am DRIVEN.
I am EMPOWERED.
I am a PHENOMENAL MOTHER.
I am FULL OF LOVE TO GIVE.
I am ENOUGH.
I am WHAT I PROVE WITH TRUE, FACTS, and INTEGRITY.
I will never be anyone’s ‘other’ woman.
I will never stop putting my daughters first.
I will always fight for the people who hold my heart, until they no longer deserves it because they stopped fighting for me.
I will continue to stand, even with one broken and battered knee, while you mock my health, while you laugh when I’m walking around saying I must be ‘miraculously’ healed … no, I’m not healed — I’m just THAT STRONG that nothing can knock me on my ass.
I will rise above.
Him, her and them.
I never thought I would be ‘that woman’.
The woman who never saw, for almost two years, her soon to be ex-husband sneaking out of the home.
The woman who never saw the signs her soon to be ex-husband had seeked, found, and kept a married girlfriend for eight months.
The woman who stood strong, protected her children, said goodbye to the woman she was … and became ‘that woman’.
But I never knew that ‘that woman’ was an incredible one … not a broken one.
I wasn’t cheated on — because to say I was CHEATED would mean I didn’t win and at the end of the day, I have gained my wings—so their actions were undoubtably cheating, but I GAINED and didn’t LOSE … therefore, I won.
I’ve gained the power to reclaim the knowledge that I won’t only survive, I’ll thrive.
I will learn from the faults ‘that man’ had, the ones he twisted to sound like mine, and grow into someone even more confident in her power.
I don’t hurt, not from him.
I don’t miss him.
I don’t miss his yelling.
I don’t miss his anger.
I don’t mourn my marriage.
No, I hurt for my children, but I made new vows to them.
Vows to empower my daughters.
Impress upon them their worth.
Prove to them they’re always worthy and damn sure always enough.
I will live my beautiful, free life, and continue to show my girls there is nothing wrong with working hard to achieve your dreams.
It took me eight months to catch him in his affair.
It took me a week to realize he wouldn’t fight for me or his family.
It took me a month to realize I didn’t lose, him and his married girlfriend did.
The winners will be me and hopefully the ‘other woman’s’ spouse. I don’t know her husband, but if he’s free too, I can only imagine he won his wings to freedom and a beautiful life, too.
It took me six weeks to realize I was giving the ‘other woman’ and ‘that man’ a gift straight from the recycling bin. It’s okay, they’ll figure out the meaning behind it the day two cheaters find out the fake life they had crafted to excuse their actions can’t build real and lasting. That two adulterers have a foundation of lies, imagination, and filth.
It took me two months to find my voice.
And I won’t be silenced.
I’m not ‘that woman’ anymore.
I am THE WOMAN.
And I’ll make sure my windows stay clean so when ‘they’ peek inside, all the see is pure love, bright happiness, and a beautiful life with the strongest of foundations.
I win, because HE didn’t break me.
I win, because I stand tall with my integrity.
I win, because I can look in my daughters eyes and know we’re worthy, enough, and one day we will be loved so much by a damn good man, and these walls will never be holding the memories of yelling, screaming, and emotional manipulation again.
I win, because THEY didn’t take my life with their secret life : they gave it back.
My name is Harper and I thank HIM for giving me the keys to start driving my girls and me into the sunset, toward the beautiful as hell life we’re going to find.
Her name was Tiffany and I passed her a mile back in her mud stained broken down USED car.
He was mine, but now he’s the stranger I don’t recognize hitchhiking on the side of the road … but the beauty in that is, I also no longer miss the him I knew and my diamond heart withheld and is shining bright as I drive right by.
And to those women out there that never thought they would be THAT woman either: don’t you ever forget how damn worthy you are of the world.
This isn’t my end for me now that I’ve become ‘that woman’.
This is my beginning because I wasn’t the ‘other woman’, I was the one that can stand tall and find her everything.
Put on your sunglasses because it’s going to be so amazing, you’ll be blinded. My rainbows will shine, my grass will be green, and my girls and I will thrive under all this light.
I’M the writer of the new story of my life and THEY are not the editors.
I never thought I would be grateful to be ‘that woman’.
You are amazing and an amazing role model for your daughters. I loved you before and I love you even more now. ❤️
You R Enough
You R Beautiful
You R Amazing
You R A Blessing
You R WOMEN
Love You Harper Sloan!
You are Absolutely Amazing. Strong. Independent. Beautiful. And you got this Girl!!
Sending you big hugs and love!! Take it one day at a time. The best revenge is success in life, raising your gurls to be strong, independent woman!!!
I was where you are once and although it was devastating at the time I learned so much about myself from that horrible experience. I am a lot stronger than I thought and although the emotional scares stayed with me for a while I never gave up fighting. My children never saw me defeated. I take great pride in that!!
This is amazing I am in awe of you how strong you are you have picked yourself up and are on your way I’m so very proud to call you my friend
Seriously cannot wait to read it!
You are a strong, loving, brilliant mother and woman! Never loose sight of that. I am a single mom of 2 teenage boys and it’s sometimes hard to remind myself that I Am Enough!
Sending hugs and kisses to you and the girls!
Xoxo
Alicia F. from South Louisiana
This is wonderfully written! I haven’t walked in your shoes and I am so happy you have raised your head high. One a cheater always a cheater, Leopards don’t change their spots!
I can’t wait to watch you and your girls soar!!!
I cannot tell you, Harper Sloan, how very proud I am of you. Your strength, your grit, your determination. You will look back on this time and marvel at just how strong and vital you truly are. Your children have the best role model in you and they will be amazing. The road may be perilous and there are going to be days that you guys may stray off the path but always get right back on and ride that ride with the wind blowing through your hair.
Here’s to you, Harper and the badass you are!
Stay strong! Worry about your babies and your self! Prayers for strength!
Very powerfully written, you show amaZing strength and determination not to let 2 people get you down
Your strength amazes me, you are the woman who will rise and shine, your girls will sparkle right beside you!
I’m sorry you and your girls have to go through this but your are a strong women! I admire you for your strength coming out of this! God bless you and your girls!
What an amazing woman you are. I’ve loved your stories and now I love your story even better.
You are amazing!! I’m so very proud of you!! You will look back and this will be but a small blip in your story!
You are an inspiration and I hope you NEVER lose your voice again. Soar and be free and raise strong wonderful women.
I am in awe of you. What you have gone through and the fact you are still standing is astounding. I’m grateful you are sharing your “ugly” and hope it does help someone. You have given your girls a tremendous gift by showing them what a strong, beautiful, women, mother and friend are. Keep doing what you are doing and you and the girls will get through this. God bless y’all. Prayers will continue for your family for strength and love. I hope if anything like this ever happened to me that I would be able to be as strong as you.
I don’t even have words that can convey how sorry I am but just what you wrote I know and can hear the conviction in you rising like a Phoenix. Wishing nothing but love to you and your girls.
I’m crying now. Not only because you’re proof that women do make it out, but because I never had your strength or courage and almost forty-two years later, i’m Still here. I have five daughters. Do they respect me? No! Some barely speak to me. So, if for even a single second you start to doubt your decisions, don’t. Celebrate your new found freedom. Celebrate it for all the women who never found there’s.
You’re an amazing “That Woman!” Congratulations on realizing all your strengths and sharing it with us, much love!
I applaud you.. Leave the trash in the trash bin behind you.. Embrace and enjoy the clean air with your girls.. It’s a new chapter in a book of life!
Love you! <3
I was also that woman many years ago. I left for my 2 daughters. He never tried to fight for us until I was involved with someone else! I became stronger and a more beautiful person because I did eventually find the love of a good man whom I love with all my heart. And now he still don’t have a relationship with those daughters. His loss my gain!!! I love you Harper!! Stay strong and amazing. We have your back!!
Preach it girl!!! Amazing testimony!!!
You and I are living the same experience only 3 years apart. I was amazed at the strength I found that I had as I am sure you will as well. Christmas Day 3 years ago my ex-husband left to move in with his girlfriend. I think she got the bad end in the deal. I don’t miss him. I continue to pray for you and your girls! You are strong and you have this under control.
You truly are an AMAZING woman Harper!! Your strength and the strength of your girls will carry you thru to much happier days.
I am in awe of your strength. I don’t know you on a personal level but I am amazed by your strength. You have given your daughters the best gift. They will carry this with them throughout their lives. You have shown them that they are worth it.
You are helping so many women by telling your story. I know it’s been a hard horrible time but you deserve the best and you are worth it. Thank you for Sharing your story . Your daughters have a amazing mom !!!!
That was THE most beautiful and empowering piece of writing I have ever read. Congratulations and I hope you continue to be amazing!!
Wonderful words from a wise woman. You got this, Sloan.
“If you’re brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello.”
xx
Your strength amazes me. Your doing wonders by putting your story out and it will help many women going through the same thing to know the can move forward and teach their children love honesty and respect. Sending love from NY and I cannot wait to continue to see how your journey continues.
Reading this makes my heart light up for you and your girls. The strength you show your girls and most importantly yourself shine through without all your heartbreak. If your girls learn anything from the beautiful mother they have I hope it is the strength they see you possess to put one foot in front of the other when life throws ruts in your way. Life may hold you down for a minute but never forever.
XOXOXO forever fan 💓
You are a freaking rock star!! I’m proud of you for not letting him or her keep you down and for being a fantastic role model for your girls. I’ve been where you are and wish I could have handled it like you have. I have no doubt that your girls are going to know how to love and be loved by the right person….they have YOU as an example to look up to.
Thank you for sharing. It gives me hope that someday I can build myself back up from the bottom. I’ve been there. It seems like yesterday but it was 11 years ago. My daughters adults now. I can only hope they take with them the lessons I tried instilling in them how important they are. Your clean windows analogy is amazing. My instinct is to retreat into the darkness but your inspiring words remind me that my life is clean, my heart and home pure. Let them look in. See the happy inside. Harper thank you again and you are helping others. Much love!
YOU are beautiful.
YOU are strong.
YOU got this.
YOU get up with your chin up high looking down at them because you just put out the biggest trash of your life at the dumpster. And your hands are clean. 😉
YOU got this because you have your beautiful girls and you have the biggest tribe to support you.
Love YOU!
You are amazing and perfectly perfect! Love you to the moon and back!
What’s that saying? You never know how strong you are until being strong is your only choice. I don’t know you well, Harper, but I’ve always thought of you as a strong woman. A beautiful woman. I have no doubt you and your girls will come out on the other side of this nightmare the victors, no looking back. Your future IS so bright 😎 and you’re going to rock this season in your life. Much love and light to you as you blaze a new trail! You are loved! 💕
I had no idea! You are an amazing woman, having the pleasure of meeting with you in Melbourne, I know you are a gracious, strong, lovely lady. I hope you have a wonderful future with your girl’s and I will be cheering for you all the way!
You.. fabulous YOU! I’m one part heartbroken for you, but MANY parts proud and awed. Your courage and strength in the face of all the bewildering and gut-wrenching twists and turns you and your daughters’ lives have taken is inspirational. I salute you, Harper! Sending you thoughts of healing karma and continued strength as you continue on living your best life!
I love you and you are so incredibly strong. Thank you for sharing this with us. <3
Yes! Yes! Yes! Yes!!!!!!!!!!!!
My God, you are AMAZING! Your words are beautiful and descriptive and allow me to see YOU. I don’t know you and have never read any of your work but you can damn sure bet that I will. I have nothing but respect for you.
Harper strong, I am so glad you are back. Mine has been a year and half and if it wasn’t for my kids I just don’t know…but they are my everything. So fly and shine bright so that your daughters can fly with you.
An inspiration of strength and integrity.
Thank you for your beautiful words.
Wow YOU rock Harper 💜 You are a great mom. Your 3 daughters and you will stand strong and tall. I am so so proud of you lady.
I don’t know that man but I saw something on his FB in regards to the truck you bought him and how he commented to his friends. I wish I had known how he was treating you because I would have blasted him a year or so ago.
You got this girl. You are beautiful and so worth the love you deserve. Wonderful role model for your girls.
Can’t wait to read Your Story when it is written and shared.
Hugs to you 💜💙🌹💚❤️🌹
You are an incredible person and the world is now your oyster to do with as you wish, free of harm, free of pain. You hold your head up high and let that light shine down on you and your girls because your future is now so bright.
He didn’t deserve you or the beautiful family you gave him but the cheaters deserve one another . So sorry you had to endure this but I’m so glad you are coming out of it stronger .
You are the WOMAN. Stay strong.
I am amazed by your strength and your clarity. What a beautiful piece. I am sorry that “that man” put you through this but he is not worthy to even walk in your shadow. G*d bless you and your girls.
You are such an inspiration and have so much strength! Thank you for sharing this
You have no idea how proud I am of your strength and purpose!
Happy days are ahead today!
Granddaddy
So sorry for what you have had to go through. Inspirational and empowering to share with us. Your strength courage and your spirit should be bottled up to pass on to any person who finds themselves in a similar situation. You are a champion . At fictionally yours Melbourne 2017 it was the best highlight of the event as I had the privilege for you to sign my books and take photos. Continue to shine bright
Wow! Such amazing words. You’re incredible & strong & brave & you’ll definitely get though this, Harper. Keep your chin up & kick ass. You & your girls will be just fine. Hugs.
Holy hell that was one strong and awesome passage!!
You are an amazing mum who has modelled to her daughters what they are are worthy and deserving of – unconditional love, faithfullnes and respect. And don’t settle for less.
All I will add is that when Dad left Mum for the woman he’d been sneaking about to see, and married her, she didn’t trust him, because she’d married a cheater.
Karma and all that.
Fly high and free. And he’ll realise the grass isn’t always greener it’s just grass! And if they were honest from the start you may still respect them, but he’s got what he deserves, someone like himself!
Onward and upwards with dignity and a smile x
I’ve been there done that ..you are Soo strong..and will be an encouragement to other women…you are winning and have won,stay strong you are a beautiful person, everybody isn’t meant to be in our lives forever,and one day when you’re ready you will find your soul mate.
You are strong and you’ve already won.
You are a inspiration for women who can relate to your story but like me you will find your happy ever after and we will all cheer for you and your girls xx
Amazing! Your story is an inspiration. You will rise like the Phoenix from the ashes!
You are amazing strong woman , good luck to you and your amazing girls and family
You are an extraordinary woman Harper Sloan. Uour daughters are lucky to have you.
I love how strong you are! Your a true inspiration! Prayers for your continued strength and healing! You remind me of how my mom was when we went through my parents divorce. Remain strong and remember God is strength and through him, all things are possible. Keep your head up and never let him get the best of you!! Xoxo
You are our woman, an example to all of us. Our hero. 💜
All I can say is WOW! That was so powerful and you inspire so many woman with those words! You are such a strong woman and a badass mother! You and you’re girls will always come out on top and you’ll all find your Happily Ever After!😘
I read this to my husband as we are in our way to work. As I cried through this, he looked over to me and said She’s a Warrior and She’s going to be just fine. He doesn’t deserve her and she deserves so much better. I have to agree with him. Harper you already got this, just keep that beautiful chin up when things get rough. Because you will come out on top. Many thoughts and prayers for you and your girls.
That was so beautifully written! You are a strong, independent woman who is a shinning example of how a proper lady handles whatever is thrown at you. It’s okay to show emotions, but at the end of the day your girls will see the power of overcoming. Your girls will see how you overcome obstacles and stand proud no matter what is tossed at you, YOU ARE ALWAYS WORTH IT! We all deserve to loved so fiercely that no one doubts the love being shown.
Lizzy I’m one of your classmates I’m truly sorry your going through this but your picking yourself back up and that’s the best thing u can do for u and your girls good job
You’ve come so far since you first shared this horrible situation. I’ve lived this struggle and like you, the struggle makes us stronger. It makes us appreciate life in a different way, see things in different lights and build strengths in us like we’ve never known before. Continue to build on that strength and heal. You are now a woman not to be trifled with. So proud of how far you’ve come. You are so better off now, even though the new normal sucks a bit, you’ve got this. You’re the strong one here and he’s the ultimate loser.
Harper, I have watched how far you have come and I am so proud of you! So proud you have found yourself! And most of all, so proud of the job you are doing with your girls!!! You will all come out of this so much stronger!!! You are most definitely an inspiration!!!Love your soul!!!
So beautiful and well said. I love you and your heart and soul. You and your daughters are equally important and worth everything that you guys deserve.
Congratulations on being amazing and the best of luck with your girls.
I am in awe of your spirit and light!! Rise up!! Love to you and your girls!!
😘 you are amazing and always have been!
I’m so proud of you.
Your strength.
Your empowerment.
Your beauty.
Knowing your worth.
God, I love how much you’re fighting, and for all the right reasons too.
You are amazing and an inspiration. <3 Good luck in your life without the toxic assholes dragging you down. You are worthy, you are enough, and you are so loved by all of us who have been captured by the words you write. You are strong and you will have no problem kicking life's ass!! <3
Your wings weren’t clipped, they were just still, waiting for take off. All those things that were said in reflection of you, wasn’t about you, it was the feelings that they see in themselves but want to make others hurt because they aren’t happy within themselves. They wanted their cake and eat it too, but one thing I have learned is….GOD DON’T LIKE UGLY and what comes around goes around. Keep your head held high because for all the darkness there will be some much more brightness. Do you girl, it’s time to shine!!!
Brave, strong, beautiful, intelligent, and inspiring!
I have read almost all your works and to read your post was the most empowering writing I’ve read.
I was in tears of pride for a fellow woman who saw her own worth and grabbed on.
Be you!
YOU are amazing! YOU are strong! YOU will rise above and come out who YOU want to be. I am so honored you shared your story. Life sometimes kicks you in the junk, it’s not always easy to get back up but YOU are doing that! So proud!!
I read this with tears in my eyes as I felt like I was reading part of my story for the past many years. I feel your pain and I loved this! I know you can will be more than you think you can be now and will come out stronger and even more amazing than just THE WOMAN you will own the world if you want too, especially if you have the right people around you! Thank you for sharing this.. I needed to read this to remind myself the past pain will never bring me down again! and as soon as your story releases I will be dropping everything to read it!
Harper, thanks for sharing. I wish you and your girls the happiness and love you all deserve. You are a strong woman and your daughters are proud to call you mom.
Great job. Stand strong.
Can’t wait to read your book.
Rocking it girl.
Hugs to you and the girls. 💜
I was “that women” and now I am The Woman to a wonderful Man who healed my heart and loved a child that was not his own. Keep your head up. Life has amazing things in store for you and your daughters.
Harper. I became that woman 2 years ago when my ex said that for our 20 year marriage to continue I needed to change and find my happiness or he couldn’t do it anymore. All the while he was sexting and calling another woman. I have just given birth to our third child when all this began and as hard as I tried for our marriage he tried just as hard to not want it.
I have finally come to a point in my life that my children 2 boys (now 3 and 12) and an amazing 19 yr old daughter, who saw some of the messages and watched her dad break me in more ways that I could have ever imagined.
I am that woman who now wakes with her babies near her each morning and gets to put them to bed each night. I am that woman who continues to work and show my children that I am no longer broken. It has taken me almost 2 years to be ok but I am grateful each day for my children. He chooses to live a whole state away from them so that he can be with the other woman whom he married 3 months before our divorce was finally. But I am that woman who loves her babies will all her heart and soul. And I continue to grow stronger each day.
You are an amazing woman and mother. Stay strong.
You’re such a GORGEOUS person in and out.
Your daughters are blessed to have you as a mother to show them how to be a STRONG woman.
Thank you for sharing your story.
Omg I am in tears. Your situation is different than mine but just like you I never thought I would be THAT woman… thank you for such empowering words and I hope I get my wings back soon because just like you my daughter needs a strong mother that can be strong foreal and not just pretend in front of her so she doesn’t suffer. I pray for you and your daughters. Thank you ❤️
You are amazing … from one that woman to another … this life is the best life you will live 💜💜💜. Be Brave and Bold luv 💪🏻💪🏻
You’ve got this. Firm believer in karma and I suspect you’re going to get a front row seat to the shite show they created. I see great things in you and your daughters’ future
yasss queen go get it!!
15 years on from living from my lie. Everything you said is true and I wish I could have read this back then. Love your words, love your strength.
I was so touched by your story. All my prayers to you and your daughters. I wish I had your strength. Continue to believe in you and your worth.
Cannot wait to read your future books. A fan from France
I was just relistening to your books and wonder why a new one hadn’t been released…So I came here to check out the lastest news….
Thank you so much for sharing!!!….There is nothing I loath more than that kind of ugliness!!!…I hope for continued strength, healing, and peace for you and your children…
Stay strong girlfriend! Many blessings to you and your girls on your new path. Just started reading your books and can’t wait for your new stories.
I applaud your strength. I have a very similar experience of the verbal abuse, an occurrence of domestic violence and after 27-years of marriage I was blindsided by my now ex’s infidelity by walking into our business only to come face to face with his secret. Needless to say it’s funny how they think I was/am the loser in their game but they are severely wrong. They may be married now but can she seriously think he is going to be faithful?
Stay strong and know that by revealing something so personal and heartbreaking that you have hopefully provided someone the strength to be able to stand up and fight the “evil” they are facing.
Wow! First he sucks, but you are now free from bondage that weighed you down rather than build you up. These roads are hard but I believe in a just God who sees all. You are a strong amazing woman, and like you I am raising to amazing , magnificent girls that will be grounded in truth and integrity. Your lives will be free from the lies that bind and you wlll be free to soar on the wings of strength!
Hi Harper,
I have just finished re reading and listening to Corp security and Hope Town.
I absolutely adore these books and love to re read them.
The sense of love and family throughout them all is amazing.
You write feelings so well that you fall in with the emotions of each character.
Well done and keep up the awesome work
Cheers
Cassandra Green
Thank you for your raw honesty! I only discovered your books a few months ago, during my divorce. I can totally relate to what you’re saying. Little did I realize we were going through very similar scenarios at almost the same time. But I know just because he cheated doesn’t mean all men are like that. I am worth so much more. I am a hopeless romantic and I am ready for my beautiful future to unfold . I too have daughters, and I’m trying to model for them honestly and strength and knowing what they’re worth. We don’t have to be defined by his choices. I feel lighter and happier than I have in years. Your blog is a wonderful encouragement to other women to stand strong and lean on each other in our lives. Thank you
That story was one of the hardest to read but also one of the best and every woman needs to read it. Its the story of a Woman and Mother letting the strength inside take over and forge a new path. I truly hope that some woman out there going through this is able to come across and read it.